The Quiet Power of Showing Up

When I was a kid, I didn’t understand why, in times of grief, my family would show up with food. It seemed like we were saying, “Sorry your person died, here’s a well-glazed pork product—hope that helps.”

But recently, when my family was struggling, a dear friend sent a simple text, "We've made you dinner; when can we drop it off?" That meal meant more than any words of comfort. It reminded me that community isn’t just about big moments—it’s about showing up in simple, profound ways.

As queer people, as city dwellers, as those who may not have inherited community structures built to hold us, connection can look different. And yet, we all need to belong. There’s an epidemic of isolation in our communities—especially among queer folks.

Like many, I felt that most deeply in 2020. I had a great relationship, a business I believed in, and my health was solid. But my sense of community? Lacking. (And no, scrolling TikTok does not count as socializing, though I tried to convince myself otherwise.)

Since then, I’ve taken concrete steps to build and maintain my community, and it’s been a source of solace and joy. One of our greatest resources is each other. Whether it’s sharing a meal, checking in, or simply making space for connection, community is something we build—and rebuild—together.

If you’re receiving this, our paths have crossed, and I invite you to keep building community with me. Let’s keep showing up for each other—bonus points if snacks are involved.