Rewrite Your Story. Reclaim Your Voice.

When I was young, I learned that identity was something to manage--to shape into something palatable, professional, or just quiet enough to stay safe. Being queer, being different, being tender in a world that rewarded toughness--it all taught me to edit myself to belong.

But as Adrienne Rich reminds us, systems are built to keep us from questioning their terms. And identity? It's often shaped more by what we inherit than what we choose--until we decide otherwise.

There's a song I love--Soledad y el Mar by Natalia Lafourcade--where she sings, "Que me cante el mar, un bolero de soledad" (or, in English, "Let the sea sing me a sad love song of solitutide").  That lyric lands deep because, for much of my life, certain parts of me only had solitude.  They had to stay quiet, hidden, tucked away where they wouldn't rock the boat.  Not gone, just unseen.  And it's in reclaiming those hidden parts that I started to feel more whole.  More me.

That's the heart of my coaching work.  I support people in moving from lives shaped by expectation and survival to ones shaped by authenticity and desire.  We unearth the stories that were handed to them--about success, love, leadership--and then ask: Do these stories still fit?  Or is it time to write your own?

This work is meaningful, it can be challenging, but it's much more often joyful.  As Mary Oliver reminds us, "You don't have to be good.  You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.  You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves."

If you're craving more spaciousness, more honesty, or more you in your own story--you're not alone.  And you don't have to do it alone.  There's liberation in this work.   And there's a new story waiting for you, one that's written in your own voice.