Tending the Garden of Connection

Years ago, the Nancy podcast ran a challenge called "Go Find Your Gaggle"--a sort of gay friendship scavenger hunt. Having relied primarily on professional spaces to meet new friends, I said yes! with my whole hopeful heart.  I dove in, ready to find my people.

It was a flop.

Instead of my people, I encountered my vulnerability--and the sinking feeling that maybe community just wasn't for me.

But here's the twist: that failure planted something.  Over time (and with a lot of compost), I've grown a rich, loving, messy queer life.  And I want that for you, too--whether you're queer or an ally showing up with love.

What I've learned about building real connection

Community doesn't just happen--not as adults, not in these times.  These days, I tend my relationships like I tend my garden:

🌿 Watering – I reach out. I check in. I put time on the calendar.
🌞 Sunlight – I create space for joy and honesty.
🌱 Weeding – I hold boundaries. I notice what no longer fits.

And I’ve stopped trying to blend in. I talk about what matters to me. I’ve let myself get queerer, bolder, and more at peace being exactly who I am—even when that’s tender.

If you're still looking for your people

Let me say this clearly, in case you need to hear it:

💡 It’s never too late.
💥 It’s worth the risk.
💖 You don’t have to figure it out it alone.

Whether you’re rebuilding after loss, reaching out from a place of loneliness, or just trying to tend the relationships you do have more intentionally—you’re not the only one. We’re out here. Let’s find each other.

And if you feel isolated (personally or professionally) or unsure how to take those first steps toward meaningful community, that’s where I come in. As a coach, I specialize in helping folks who feel disconnected and want to create deep, nourishing relationships. Together, we’ll clarify your needs, explore opportunities, and take the steps that feel right for you.